Shree: Drifting
Some days are organic – as if one
swims according to where the tide takes one. The subject, concerns, intents,
actions can drift in any direction and that is all ok I feel. Some of the
things which were felt today during conversations were –
Things are clear in one’s mind
does not necessarily mean they are imagined in the same sequence and meaning by
others. This means that despite clarity of expression from your end, a person
may be required to take his/her time for digesting what has been communicated
in intent. The more important learning is that it should not mean anything
personal about “how” things were communicated and exchanged – neither to the
person nor to you. One need not feel offended in what manner communication
transpires and that exchange is in no way required to be evaluated or judged or
labelled. In any case it happens ‘by default’ (this evaluation) YET, one should
train to suspend this subtle thought of evaluation. Again, this may mean sometimes
things are reuired to be said logically, sequentially, metaphorically and so
on - there is no fixed rule to this.
Also, it is not at all binding to
prove a point or a difference of opinion
- this is a false notion and why is this notion entertained is a mystery
– just like many other things that get unnecessarily entertained and casue
serious self harm and a burden. I am not responsible for any change and neither
am I the change. If change happens, it is all incidental and whatever change
happens is always required, despite whatever one may feel about one’s role! In
other words, ‘relax’.
The third point is that there are
always going to be pressures of time, space, action and existence – but all of
this is a construct and it depends on what gives ‘peace’ to an individual.
However peace is not a personal idea – it is an experience that ought to raise
connection with the environment. In what manner it raises a connection is
entirely a matter of intuition and highly relative and one formula may not at
all be applicable for the other person. For one person, it may all be about
time management; but for the other it may be entirely about feelings. Both are
valid and both are required to be seen as valid positions of knowing and
becoming the Truth.
The fourth point is that during
discussions, one may realize that one does not have any answers to anything at
present and almost all things are required to be discovered. That does not mean
that one has lost the time; or what was done preciously was foolish or what
ought to be done henceforth should be done immediately to bring about a change
or anything else for that matter. Realization is about essense of Being and not
about subsequent perception of past and future. One does not lose any time or
gain time – all is already there. One only realizes. One only ought to become
steady.
The fifth point is that some way
or the other people communicate concerns happening at a very deeper level. This
means deeper feelings have some mysterious ways of surfacing and as they
surface, their character changes. If you hear only the surfacing of words, then
the entire point may get missed. If you are relaxed and observing of what seems
to be happening then the concerns are ‘felt’ and that generates empathy between
the two people. This feeling of empathy is a glue in relationships. It should
be felt, regardless of any situation. Again how that happens, is a mystery.
One can see the above things from
philosophical perspective. All things one sees, observes is happening from the
point of view of one’s existential being – the vibrations dictate the manner in
which one interprets situations. Now these are reuired to become steady, only
then the angle of empathy and transcendence would materialize in the self. This
perhaps may not mean to gain experience by years (although that may also happen),
but it is also a conscious training to the mind. Finally existence works its
ways through us – it has to be accepeted
Hari Om.