Shree: Learning from family

180322: Shree: Learning from family

Many things in life need to be observed and accepted without any conditions or judgments – a kind of calmness and a quality of compassion may arise from this tendency. Compassion perhaps then means a perspective to remain non judgmental and to realize that human beings are subjected to tendencies of “vibrations” that surface as perceptions and responses and to which we expect certain control and thereby causing pain or pleasure. Are these tendencies right or wrong is a question that is supposed to be surpassed, since holding on to the question itself indicates an expectation from us to have situations in a certain way; in certain frequencies and in certain character. We aren’t the doer of anything and it is the presence of consciousness that generates this motion and dynamics of change. So there is no right or wrong in any manifestation – it is divine by its cause and effect.

My mother cannot talk clearly because of Parkinson and she requires assistance at all times by everyone at organic times and for anything. Why should I feel pain for this? At one end I know I am helpless to do anything or to even stop the condition – but it is a clear expectation on my part to make life comfortable for myself and at the same time an indication of attachment. This is selfish no doubt in one dimension, but it may also be a lesson to be learnt for me. But if I let her be as she is then I do not expect anything and I remain calm, since it is a phenomenon where nobody is responsible but a phenomenon in itself which keeps changing to some eventuality, within which also the journey is unique to her and me (as manifestations). So the greatest love will be to let things happen the way they do without any purposeful interference or any compulsions to change.

This is applicable to any situation. My father too because of age, convulsions, start of dementia responds in unpredictable, undependable ways. He will appear anxious, stressed and cling sharply to many things which may appear trivial to us. He is entering into a zone where the definition of logic itself will be changing – that of perception, responses, people and situations. What do you say for this? How is one supposed to respond to his condition? How is it supposed to improve? What is to be expected from us? There is no answer in simple terms or logical terms or clear terms. Again, being non judgmental for him seems to be a less stressful approach. The core of all things means that I need to be non judgmental about “myself” or the idea of what is me and why am I here and what does my existence mean?

Drop this background question or go beyond this question and a huge burden seems to be lifted. So we had created a burden ourselves and the burden is generated by considering us mortal beings having mind and body and being attached to this perception. We consider our perception as a default reality and that is a mistake – the human perception being treated as something absolute. Perception will change in our lives and it will also change in next zone of existence between two lives. And perception means mind, which means existence, which means “isness”. So we can alter or create reality in whatever manner is appropriate. Reality or existence is already there – shaping it in ways that seems correct is our duty.

Hari Om.