Shree: Trauma

 

Shree: Trauma

Why trauma is not spoken is a mystery. To think of reality, differences, opinions, changes, dependences, situations, incompleteness, impermanence someday is going to lead to trauma or pain. No matter what the effort of control, grappling with control, knowing about the self – it will lead to moments of pain and this means this is a default and a necessary step in the evolution of the human mind. Trials, struggles, internal conflicts, dilemmas, contradictions – all erupts as vibrations or as the mind or as the signals received from the environment and hence the requirement to make everything steady. Under what intentions things happen is a mystery, nothing is sure and yet one is required to perform or engage well. There are all sorts of vibrations that emerge and there is no stopping or going away about the same and there is no control or even avoidance or procrastination. There are compulsions to express what happens “inside” of us and this happening is continuous and changeable and relational. This requires acceptance.

If one sees any situation of any scale – of an individual to a relationship to a human being to an environment to a country – there are many unresolved thoughts that cause pain and for which only listening is required, no justification or analysis or resolution or solution. To “fix” pain is a mistake and worse still to label a person as a”failure” because he/she expresses pain is a tragedy, for that silences him/her even further.

An example of this distorted attitude is about school success or even migration of people to make a better life. Studies in oral histories will reveal that, be any people of society, displacement to a new situation/ place may cause enormous disorientation of the mind and the disorientation feeling can linger for many years. Why it comes and at what time and to whom and where and when and how – only requires acceptance and not ridiculing the person or expecting to latch on to the idea of “good life” at whatever cost. The confirmation to remain “always happy” is a mistake we commit and keep on endorsing and as will be known and is always acknowledged in philosophy that mind wavers, it causes feelings and this is a very natural process to happen.

The challenge is about self acceptance – of the mind. Modern times have added additional burden of performances, productions, approvals, confirmations, peak outputs, multitasking without a murmur of breakdown. It is sacrilege to put it simply. One of the biggest self created culprits is the idea of “individualism” wherein we remain completely disconnected from all life forms and even one another and refuse to just listen attentively by absorbing the mind and body with the other person.  Listening may itself become a healing act of connection beyond words. A “practical” problem is always cited about what it does to accumulating “money”? And the answer is that just as creation asks for no justification, listening attentively asks for any answers or justifications. This is a profound experience that even money cannot offer. And if this can become our default mode of being, then it will be revealed to us that existence only is and one can become delightful in this without creating any burden on the self.

Hari Om.