Shree
Shree
I was referring to one of the previous thoughts and what it had to say – that hearing things out from other people or even doing your own stuff may make you feel rather disoriented and urge you to take “some action” at an urgent level. One can decode why this happens. Some of the reasons that could be understood were;
Everyone’s scope pf perception and thereby the inferences one draws or the kind of connections and sequences one makes is different and talks about a “scale” of action/ memory. I may not wish to do anything in a given situation whereas the other person may think that action is immediately required. Why this tendency differs is because of how one is thinking and one’s awareness of reality. Here are certain fears one constructs based on this and potentials one senses because of this – all differ from person to person. And incidentally one is so consumed by one’s thought processes that it takes effort and patience to understand the position in which other is saying something. With shortage of time, this leads to arguments.
I am seriously thinking what should be the approach to quieten this tendency of arguments? “resolving” and prioritizing and insisting a relationship among different positions is one of the ways – but provided one is willing to resolve and come to some inference, else it is too much exhausting and not worth the effort. I sometimes resist talking if I get a feel that this is where the communication may lead. Again why does this happen? This is a question that requires substantial time to understand and the more we fragment space and time and action and ourselves arguments increase as each one’s perception becomes extremely limiting. And the more limiting it becomes, the more urgent it prompts the person to act. Therefore fragmentation has serious effects on people.
We can’t avoid fragmentation – that is what I am realizing. We cant prove to anyone (and the other is does not realize) why resolution is required. In this case, we should develop the strength of “letting things be as they are” and remain silent. Being silent does not mean non action in any way. Secondly we should encourage whatever the signals keep coming in the mode of discussion and arguments – whatever those take some shape and take time to let them float ad change. At times the other person talks more from some perception rather than a rational thought and by letting the person talk, the rationality comes in eventually and he/she is then more forthcoming to deliberate on matters. Therefore probably the conversations start from irrational spectrum and lead to a rational spectrum. We should operate from a rational spectrum and not the irrational ones.
Hari Om.